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How To Begin Rebuilding Your Life And Make It Ridiculously Amazing

Luminita D. Saviuc, Purpose Fairy, Guest

"Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures." ~ Joseph Addison

What if one day you woke up and decided that you were tired of feeling tired and that you had enough of everything? Enough of stress and anxiety, enough of anger and resentment, enough of struggle, lack, pain and poverty, enough of tears, heartbreaks, self destructive thoughts, behaviors and relationships and enough of all that is negative and toxic? What if you decided that you wanted to change yourself and your life but didn't know where exactly to start, what then?

There are many things you can do to begin rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing and today I will share with you 12 things that are meant to help you do just that. Are you ready? Let's begin:

1. Make a commitment to yourself

I (name),

Make a commitment to myself,

To spend so much time improving myself and my life that I have no time for worry,  judgement, criticism, whining and complaining;

To forgive, release and let go of my attachment to any past struggles and allow every challenge life sends my way to make me better not bitter.

Starting now, I make a commitment to let go of what's behind me and start appreciating what's in front of me;

To let go of all the pointless drama, all the toxic relationships, thoughts and behaviors that are present in my life and to constantly shift my focus from the bad on to the good;

To make room in my heart for love, happiness, peace and tranquility and to create my life from a place of infinite choices and possibilities – the present moment, and no longer from a place of limitations – the past.

I commit to staying true to myself at all times and to never betray myself just so I can please other people.

I commit myself to give up on toxic thought, behaviors and relationships but never on myself and my dreams.

Starting now and starting today, I will  begin rebuilding my life and to make it ridiculously amazing.

Sincerely,
(name)

Once you truly commit to rebuilding your life and making it ridiculously amazing, nothing and no one will be able to stand in your way.

2. Forgive, release and let go of past hurts and resentments

Fill your heart with love. Forgive, release and let go. Not necessary because those who mistreated you deserve it, but because you do. Let forgiveness liberate you from your past. Allow it to take away all the resentment you kept in heart for all this time and allow yourself to fill in that empty space with love, inner peace and compassion.

If others mistreated you in the past it doesn't mean you have to continue their work. Look how beautiful Mark Twain talks about this: "Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured."

Release and let go of all the negativity from your life. Start small and trust that as you work on letting go of all the extra baggage that is weighting you down, you will begin to feel lighter and you will gain a lot more clarity over your life. You will feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world around you.

3. Embrace with grace all that you face

Shift your focus from the bad on to the good, from the pain on to the gain, from resentment on to the forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation. Learn to embrace with grace all that you face.

Appreciate everything life sends your way, whether good or bad and know that "Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." ~ Melody Beattie

4. Visualize your achievements and create your destiny

Ask yourself the same question I asked myself a few years ago when I decided to let go of my attachment to my past and begin rebuild my whole life: "If there were no limits to what I can do, be and have, how would my life look like?"

Let your imagination run wild. Dare to dream big. Don't settle for less than you are worth.

The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life will be.

"The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made the choice to create their destinies and visualized their achievements before they ultimately succeeded." ~ George Kohlrieser

See in your mind's eye the life you would love to live, the person you would love to become and the relationships you would want to have. Live your life from the end and act as if all of the things you need and desire are already present in your life. Feel the feelings that come from having all those wonderful things happen to you and allow those feelings to be with you at all times.

5. Dreams won't work unless you do

Act upon your heart's desire. Do the things you need to do in order to get where you want to get. Read the books you need to read, contact the people you need to contact, build the skills you need to build.

Find a mentor. Dare to ask questions. Do whatever it takes to move yourself closer to making your dreams come true.

Trust that with every step you take, your life situation will improve and you will become even more happier than you already are.

6. Take one step at a time

Because of the many years of past conditioning and the intense training you have in holding on to toxic thoughts, behaviors and unhealthy relationships, giving up on all that is toxic in your life won't be easy and it won't happen overnight. Chances are that you won't see major improvements in your life immediately, and that's okay. Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on rebuilding your life and remember to enjoy the journey.

"Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it." ~ Greg Anderson

Take one step at a time and keep in mind that a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step.

7. Develop a deep trust in life

You have to have faith. You have to have trust… Trust in yourself, trust in the people you interact with and trust in life.

Put your fears aside. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Develop a deep trust in the wisdom of life. "Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you." ~ Matthew 17:20

8. Give yourself permission to "fail"

Give yourself permission to "fail" and make "mistakes".

Trust me when I tell you that in every "mistake" there is a lesson to learn, lesson that will be very beneficial to you as you continue walking on your life's chosen path.

"There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they're necessary to reach the places we've chosen to go." ~ Richard Bach

9. Be good to yourself

Love yourself and be good to yourself because if you do, the world around you will start mirroring your behavior. Take good care of your mind, body, heart and soul. Exercise, drink plenty of water, eat healthy and delicious food.

Nurture good thoughts. Act in compassionate and loving ways, towards yourself and the world around you. Spend time alone, spending at least 5 to 10 minutes per day in silence would make you help make you feel refreshed, rejuvenated and renewed.

Go outside. Spend some time in nature. Look at the plants, the sky, the stars, the moon and the trees. Celebrate the miracle of life.

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." ~ Albert Einstein

10. Give up living your life to other people's expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.  They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.

Never get your sense of worth from outside yourself.  Your worth comes from inside yourself and not from forces outside yourself – people, events, material possessions. Don't ever let other people tell you how much you're worth, decide for yourself. It's called self worth not others worth.

You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's opinions distract you from your path.

11. Discipline your mind to stay present in the NOW

Learn to be present and engaged in the present moment. Be happy with what you have, what you know and who you are right now. Don't allow your mind to trick you into thinking that you won't be happy until you get where you want to get.

Appreciate what's in front of you. If you learn how to be present and engaged in the NOW, you will live a very happy and content life and no matter how many challenges life will send your way, you will become a better not bitter person.

"As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action." ~ Eckhart Tolle,

12. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people

Surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive and loving people. People who can lift you up when you are feeling down; people who will turn on the light for you when you are in the dark; people who can see you for what you truly are and who you can truly become. Take the advice of Mark Twain and "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."

You need positive and loving friends who will support you in your new way of life…

Commit yourself to making the best of everything life sends your way. Be soft and flexible. Go with the flow of life and no longer against it.

Enjoy the ride and no matter what happens to you and no matter how many challenges and difficult people life might send your way, know that they are all there to help you grow and evolve into the beautiful being you so much want and deserve to be.

You only have one life to live. Make it a memorable one.

Give up on all the toxicity present in your life but never on yourself and your dreams, ok?

"The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination." ~ Don Williams Jr.

How do you envision your ideal self? What about your ideal life? What steps could you take this week to move yourself closer to building your ideal self and living your ideal life?  I really want to know what are your thoughts on this. You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 

With all my love,

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~A.

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6 Mantras You Should Say Every Morning

When we wake up to get our day started, some days we are less motivated than others. And let's be real, sometimes we are just dead tired and crawling out of bed is the last thing we want to do. But, engaging in a little pep talk to help those feet hit the floor just might help.

Here are six mantras that might help get you out of bed and get moving.

1. I can do this. A lot of times, our first thoughts when we wake lead to feelings of being overwhelmed or feeling exhausted about the day ahead before we even start moving. By taking those feelings in stride and focusing on our ability to make things happen, we can turn our thoughts into something positive. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, think about taking the day's responsibilities one step at a time and knowing that you can do it.

2. Time to live for today. The other day, someone said one of the best quotes I've ever heard. She said, "We get closer to death every day, which is just one more reason to make sure we are living." That sat with me and I felt very introspective and took the quote word for word, which lead me to realize that there is so much truth in the statement. I mean, if we aren't taking today to live our lives, then what we are doing? Simply put, learn to live.

3. Let's make a difference. Each day we have the opportunity to do something. We have the chance to make a difference in small and big ways. Making a difference could simply be through sharing a smile or a story, giving words of encouragement, making a donation, or writing a blog post (!). We are lucky enough to be here, so why not take the time to make a difference in one moment, one opportunity, or one life?

4. Something awesome is going to happen today! This is really about having faith in the day. We have no idea what the next 24 hours may hold for us, but having the belief that something amazing is going to happen, might just be the catalyst to creating and accepting the awesomeness that is on its way over.

5. Why not? In the words of my mentor, Jen Groover, always think, "What if? Why not?" These questions make you think about the best and worst case scenarios of every situation. What if you take a chance and do something awesome? Why not take the plunge? Often times by asking ourselves these questions, we can visualize the highest success and realize that the possibility of failing isn't that devastating – the worst that could happen usually isn't that bad, but hey, at least we tried.

6. No time is better than now. It's not a myth that there is never a right time (for anything!) – there really isn't a perfect time. We always think we need to wait – wait to make more money, be in a better physical state, etc. Sometimes these are things we can control and we can work toward making the situations better, but often, we just end up finding other excuses making us feel like the time isn't right. Just accept that there will never be a perfect time, and doing something now is better than waiting and winding up doing nothing.

A mind encumbered by negative thoughts is one that is distracted and often sets us up for failure before we even get started. So, when you wake up, you make the choice as to how you will live your day. Say any (or all) of these mantras to make each day your best, because you never know which one might be your last.

Do you have use any of these or have your own morning mantras? Please share!

~A.

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Are You Ready? Here Are The Top 10 Skills For The Future

As big disruptive shifts hit the workplace we all get taken out of our comfort zones. Whereas once we felt in control, the stakes are evolving rapidly and our ability to adapt is falling behind.   If we consider the recent gallup poll results that indicates that only a mere 30% of the workforce is actually committed to doing a good job, engaged, it really drives home the point that we may need to take a deeper look at the skills we have today, map them against the various trends that are impacting the workplace, and derive a view to the skills we will need moving forward.

A recent report published by the Institute for the Future (IFTF), does an outstanding job of identifying the key work skills and capabilities needed in the next few years (and arguably needed now).

Here they are:

Sensemaking

Steve Jobs once said ""Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn't really do it, they just saw something".   Sensemaking is all about the ability to connect things to create new ideas. Quoting Maria Popova, who has really crystallized this notion, in order for us to truly create and contribute to the world, we have to be able to connect countless dots, to cross-pollinate ideas from a wealth of disciplines, to combine and recombine these pieces and build new castles.

Social intelligence

Relationships and the ability to connect with people becomes and remains a crucial capability, however, as John Hagel thoughtfully points out, influence and relationship-building will now come from asking the right questions, not necessarily having all the answers. In the age of the individual, you can no longer assume that every person shares the same goals, desires and motivators. Whether you are engaging with an employee or a customer, everyone is unique and wants to be catered to in a way that's unique to them.   The ability to connect with people in a deeper, more meaningful way whether they are colleagues or strangers will enable us to thrive in beyond the industrial age, get things done and solve complex problems. To do so, and despite the abstraction of technology, we must continue to develop capabilities to quickly understand other's emotions, motivations and triggers and take a human approach to business.

Novel and adaptive thinking

As employment growth gets polarized into either ends of low-skill jobs or high-skills jobs, it is important that we always evolve our thinking towards the future to ensure we stay relevant.   At the pace by which companies are changing, staying up-to-date is no longer enough. Taking self-initiative to constantly improve your skills, pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, becoming a perpetual student, and quickly adapting to new realities will help ensure you are creating value and will keep you out of the cross-hairs for outsourcing.

Cross-cultural competencies

The recent Harvard Business Review piece "How to say "This is Crap" in different cultures serves yet another reminder as to how important it is to be able to be effective in different cultural settings.   Globalization is no longer the buzzword in corporate America, it is reality.   Many of us work globally every day, interacting with a multitude of cultures, but those who know how to empathize and adjust their communications and style of collaboration, will always have an advantage when working across geographies and cultures.

Computational thinking

No, this doesn't mean you should think like a computer, but nonetheless, being analytical becomes center-stage as data is everywhere.   You get it from all sorts of sources, whether you are sifting through dozens of emails, or crunching huge Excel spreadsheets. The ability to translate vast amounts of into actual insight is now, more than ever a critical skill.   Many of us work with data on a daily basis, but to understand the meaning, the trends and patterns of what the data is telling us becomes paramount.   Are sales tanking? Are people jumping ship? These are things you wouldn't be able to tell just a single number.

New media literacy

Still printing your 50-slide powerpoint decks? The world of videos, blogs, and podcasts has changed the way we communicate and consume information.   With an entire generation that was born digital entering the workforce, everyone will need to become fluent in digital and social media forms of communications in the same way that they currently assess a paper or presentation.

Transdisciplinarity

In the age of mounting competition and vast technological change, the capabilities needed to successfully differentiate a company and win in the marketplace are much broader than they were in the past.   We can no longer rely on just bringing together groups of specialists to solve our most complex problems. Instead, companies are in need of Generalists (or polymaths if you prefer that word) with new, agile skills that can see the big picture, listen, synthesize ideas and connect the dots.

Design mindset

We live in a transitional phase between an old "business world" where mass production ruled and products and services were conceived in a lab and then rolled out to the masses and a "new world" where people-centric approaches are increasingly being used to create new products and services that are thoughtfully designed through interdisciplinary teams and collaborative processes. A design mindset refers to the ideas and attitudes by which a person approaches a situation.   It is about focusing on human values and developing a deep understanding of the people that matter most to the problem we're trying to solve. Through practicing empathy, whether through conversation, observation or experiencing, adopting a design mindset becomes a critical ingredient in the ability to execute successfully.

Cognitive load management

The shear amount of data and information that hits us in a short span of time has exponentially increased with streams in multiple formats coming from multiple devices.   A tweet here, a text message or email there and pretty soon managing the flow and prioritization of all this information becomes a challenge.   The ability to effectively filter and focus what on what really requires your attention becomes paramount. This includes effectively managing your channels, deciding where to participate vs. where not to and taking a disciplined approach to managing distractions as opposed to real priorities.

Virtual collaboration

Whether you're a fan of it or not, working and collaborating effectively virtually, whether on a simple task or a very complex challenge is a necessity as the nature of our work is globalized.   Despite a variety of tools and technologies that are now available, we still struggle with being effective as members or leaders of virtual teams.   Technologically, the future for virtual collaboration looks very promising with enterprise tech taking a page out of successful consumer ventures, but the virtual work also demands a new set of competencies and effort in order to ensure productivity in a cross-cultural, fully global reality.

In a world where staying relevant becomes a top priority (for individuals as well as companies), there are no guarantees that either of these skills will lead to success.  The key becomes taking charge of your own destiny by evaluating where you are today and charting your personal map as to where you want to go.

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~A.

Hellllo!

~A.